Handling Conflict

Today in our Sunday School class we talked about handling conflict. Conflict within the Bible, about the Bible, and within our own lives.

We started out reading Genesis 13:1-13. We were reading about Abram and Lot. They reached a point where they could no longer stay together but due to circumstances had to go their separate ways. This could have easily caused fighting or major disagreements between the two but instead Abram approached the situation in a way we all should: with a constructive attitude.

He did 4 important things to keep harmony and to solve the problem at hand:

  1. First he identified that there was a problem and took the initiative to find a solution.
  2. Then, in verse 8, he expressed his desire for harmony when he said, “Let’s not have any quarreling between you and me or between our herdsmen…”
  3. He affirmed their relationship then by saying “…for we are brothers”
  4. Lastly he allowed the other (Lot) to decide from reasonable solutions. He did this when he said, “…Lets part company. If you go to the left then I will go to the right and if you go to the right, I’ll go to the left.”

Our Sunday School teacher today said it very well when he said to us, “When conflict arises via sin or uncontrollable circumstances we need to seek helpful solutions” Quarrelling doesn’t always solve the problem, sometimes we just have to agree disagree.

He referenced today :

  • Romans 12:17-21, “Do not repay evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everybody. If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. Do not take revenge, my friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: ‘It is mine to avenge; I will repay says the Lord.’ Do not be overcome by evil but over come evil with good”
  • Philippians 2:2 & 4:2, Both are verses about loving one another and getting along.
  • Romans 15:5-6, “May the God who gives endurance and encouragement give you a spirit of unity among yourselves as you fallow Christ Jesus, so that with one heart and mouth you may glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ.”

In the end most things we fight over don’t matter anyways. The fact that Jesus died on the cross to save us from our sins and that we were all born sinners is not changed by the way we interpret most scripture be it: the day of the week we worship on, the holidays we celebrate, what we eat, and what we do in everyday life.

This week he said to try to find the time to read Gen 13-19. So far, in just this short snippet, I have found that in my heart most of my quarrels and fights go back to my own pride, so I cant wait to see what the Lord has in store for me as I read the rest of this!


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