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Frustration Free Potty Update

For those who read my last post Frustration Free Potty 6 months ago, here is our update.

Recently I was giving Kenna and Aubrie a bath. When we were done, I pulled Kenna out first and then moved onto Aubrie. Kenna started to pee on the floor by the door and then she ran to the toilet. Assuming she was already done I said, “Oh its ok honey. Mommy will clean it up in just a sec.” Then she proceeded to pee all over the floor by the toilet. She wanted to go but was too short to get up there. So I went to get her, her first potty. Its a simple pink and white potty where the tray lifts out to be emptied. We put it in the bathroom and left it.

She started out by sitting on it while I went to the bathroom, but not using it. She also recently learned the joys of being naked. she loves to be naked. She would however ask me for a diaper when she needed to go potty. Then the other day she started to pee in the kitchen. I said “wait wait wait hold on wanna go on the potty?” and she ran in and finished peeing on the potty. YAY what a to do we made of it.

The next day she comes running into me naked from the bottoms down and says, “Mama I go pee pee” I say ok want a diaper or to go to the potty?” She says, “Potty” and starts to run from the livingroom down the hall to the bathroom and Im right behind her. But then she veers into the kitchen to show me the giant poop she did in the middle of the kitchen …. oh boy lol, it was like it was straight out of a Clorox commercial!

Since then she spends most days at home half or fully naked. When she needs to go potty she will either run to the potty or ask for a diaper. A diaper almost always for poop. But then today she was standing on a chair in the kitchen and starts screaming and crying. I say “What what whats wrong baby?” She says, “I need potty” I offer her a diaper or the potty and she says “Potty” so I rush her to the potty and she poops!!! First time! Woot woot! Then I went to clean the bathroom later on and I see her potty is full of pee and it hits me. On her own, she is self potty training. She is getting it.

Now comes the hard part where I know she can do it and I want to encourage her (even make) her do it, but I wont. I will continue to allow her to choose diaper or potty and potty train herself. If its now or next month or still next year it will be ok. She will be fully potty trained on her own when she is ready.

Frusteration Free Potty

As Kenna nears 1.5 years old I have heard so many parents, family, friends, and even strangers say “Oh my getting close to potty training time” or “Dont you think its time to potty train?” or “She’s telling you shes going so it must be time to buy a potty!” I have regularly provided care for many years now for kids ranging from newborn through preschool age and especially after Bailie I learned a few things about potty training. “You can lead a horse to water but you cant make them drink” just the same “You can lead a kid to the potty but you cant make them pee”. When Bailie was the age Kenna is now, like so many other parents, we bought her first potty. It had all the bells and whistles! We bought the panties and candy and stickers! Everything we thought we needed to teach her how to use the potty! We even let her pick most of it out because that would make her excited and willing to go!

There was excitement, using the potty, more excitement, accidents, frustration, regression, and then it started all over again and went on that way for a year! I thought something must be wrong! We talked to her doctor and she said that with girls you dont need to worry till 3 years old and boys 4 years old due to anatomy, brain development, and muscle control and then the linking of all those together. She also warned me of the “dangers” of teaching children to potty train too early, teaching them to hold it and then in turn they dont want to stop playing at times and will hold it so long infections and other complications emerge.

So what do we do then? What if we NEVER teach our children to potty train? Thing is even if we dont force our kids to learn to use the potty eventually they will. Children all develop differently. Some WILL be ready by 2 or sooner and some 4.5 or later. Both are extremes but completely possible.

We will probably get a potty seat in a year or so (maybe sooner if she shows interest on her own) and let her lead the way. I might talk to her while I go (because lets face it when your a mom with littles there is usually one or two hanging out while you use the bathroom, throwing jelly beans in the tub and pulling out the bath toys) and Ill say things like, “I sure am happy when I use the potty” or “I feel so good when I use the potty” or “It sure is fun to use the potty” and then let her decide when she wants to try it to.

Most importantly as parents its best to leave all negativity and “go or else” statements out of it. If you start to get frustrated with your potty training kiddo ask yourself what your motives are! Are you potty training for them or for you?

Now I must share some of the ridiculously funny potty chairs out there intended to pray on the desperate to potty train parents of the world and their wallets!

The potty we bought for Bailie! The flusher flushes and the potty sings when they go and the toilet paper thing makes noise too!

The rocking chair potty they can sit and watch TV

 

The desk potty so they can sit and color!

The animal potty so they can sit and play!

Lastly the iPotty! The potty that holds an iPad so kids can sit and play games! 

Most of these potties play on the fact that parents dont want to sit with their kids on the potty for hours any more than the kids wanna sit for hours so they have to make it fun! Truth is that when its not forced or rushed it can be fun and relaxing even without seats like the ipotty!